If it seems like your marriage is going south, do you plan on doing everything possible to save it?
For many people in such a predicament, turning their marriages around is worth it. For others, they know that the handwriting is on the wall.
That said is a divorce imminent in your life?
Knowing the Signs of Marital Issues
While some signs your marriage is in trouble are rather obvious, others can be a little harder to pick up on.
Among some of the red flags:
- Your spouse is out a lot more – Have you and your spouse been pretty much homebodies up to this point? If so, your partner being gone a lot more can be a red flag that trouble has arrived. They may have a legitimate excuse for being gone. Then again, it could be that someone else has entered the picture. If you suspect something is up, it is best to get the truth sooner than later. Sit down with them and ask why in fact they are not around like they used to be.
- Your spouse is short with you – If you and your spouse have had healthy conversations up to now, why is this changing? They may not want to talk with you on important matters or matters at all. The conversations can be rather short and might be a little terse at times. It could be that they are trying to hide something from you. What they’re trying to hide is in fact that they are spending time with someone else. Once again, direct conversation is oftentimes the only way to get to the bottom of the matter.
- Your spouse spends less time with the children – When you have kids, you both should spend time with them. As it turns out, your partner is not around these days much if at all to spend time with the children. Unless it is due to having to travel for work or some other legitimate reason, this is an issue that needs fixing.
- Your spouse is holding back on finances – Last, does your spouse not contribute money like they did? This can include not putting money towards trips or buying a car to also needs around the home. As it turns out, that money may in fact be going towards spending time with another individual and not you.
Can You Save the Marriage?
Determining if in fact you can save the marriage will take some thinking on your end.
Do you feel you can save the marriage and repair it? If not, what steps are going to be necessary to start the divorce process?
Going through a divorce is in fact one of the most difficult things many people will do in their lifetimes.
If you’ve tried everything you know of it to repair the marriage, yet it seems lost, a divorce may be imminent.
Take the time to sift through your thoughts and feelings before rushing into a decision.
Once you have made the right decision for you and your children if you have them, move forward with your life.